Here, I slightly disagree with you. The patriarchy is very real, very toxic, and very much needs to be dismantled.

I contend, however, that every person (of any gender or other background) is at a different stage in terms of whether (or to what extent) they accept or reject the patriarchy. Same goes for which solutions (if any) they are embracing, when it comes to what would replace the patriarchy. It's a vast rubric and spectrum, all at the same time.