I agree. But shouldn't that become part of the deemphasis on perceived "beauty," in the first place?

You're right that I do enjoy privilege in terms of, individually, having always looked a lot "younger" than I actually am. But, in my view, nobody should be asking people whom they barely know how old they are. "You look good for 41" isn't really the compliment toward me that people think it is -- it's a microaggression.

When my hair actually does go fully gray, I'm definitely going to struggle (even though, ironically, nobody else's gray hair bothers me).

I'd love to hear more about the "misandrist oppression" you seem to think I'm spinning out of thin air -- especially because you've already proven how you're prone to psychoanalyzing complete strangers.