I appreciate your candidness, Anton.
I embrace the opportunity to learn about systemic problems that I haven't directly experienced (as well as the ones that I have), and what are the different ways I can potentially be part of the solution -- but, having said that, I'd analyze much of #Woke culture as having two major recurring flaws:
1.) Some people have an all-or-nothing outlook on definitions. Example: left-wing virtue-signalers subscribe to the belief that racism/sexism/etc. can *ONLY* be systemic. I'd counter that such "-isms" can be systemic and/or cultural and/or social. Marginalizing the mistreatment of someone from a majority group as being merely "prejudice" (by rigid definition) really undercuts the movement's broader goals, because it's essentially giving permission to normalize a newly-inverted "pecking order." But the #Woke crowd is unwilling to look at these problems from multiple angles with multiple layers. Apparently, if you don't blindly agree with their unilateral hijacking of those specific definitions, you are suddenly *The_Enemy*
2.) Abuse of "The Association Fallacy." What I mean by this is when #Woke virtue-signalers declare that the only people who are *allowed to* comment on an issue whatsoever are those who experience that specific example of oppression (unless, of course, you're willing to just echo the already-established #Woke talking-points). Hence, because I am both White and male, I'm not allowed to ask questions or participate in discourse when the subject matter is something faced predominantly by Black people, BIPOC, or women. In fact, in my experience and observations, the archetypes who tend to be most guilty of this "thought-policing" are, ironically, OTHER White people or OTHER men who have apparently appointed themselves as the "Call-Out Hall Monitors" (from the ideological Left). Perhaps it isn't so ironic, though; because they clearly feel they have something to prove to the world, and they loudly remind everyone of it at every turn. Add to that: there seems to be an informal "hierarchy" of oppression, such as the belief that groups with "mutable" attributes (e.g. sexual orientation, religion, some disabilities, etc.) are told not-so-subtly to move aside and "wait their turn" (in favor of POC and cisgender women) in a majority of discussion contexts.
This has created a diametrically-opposed -- yet equally-toxic -- leftist counterpart to the Born-Again MAGA caricature. Apparently, any disagreement with (or challenge to) #Woke dogma gets you branded as "one of those moderates whom Dr. King warned us about."
Nobody should expect empathy if they aren't willing to give it. "Ranking oppressions" never works. We all need to listen...but we all need to TAKE TURNS listening. There also needs to be more focus on TANGIBLE SOLUTIONS, rather than this constant bemoaning some self-fulfilling prophecy of how supposedly "nothing is ever going to change" -- coupled with the obligatory rhetorical self-flogging expected from anybody who happens to be White and/or male and/or heterosexual and/or cisgender and/or Christian and/or able-bodied/minded and/or insert-anything-else...