I'd assumed that's where you were coming from, and that's why I said it with love. I didn't think YOU were literally or individually homophobic, transphobic, heterosexist, cissexist, etc. -- was just pointing out how invisible many of us are rendered, whenever the discussion is framed along such an outdated binary.

Maybe, sometime when your schedule allows for it, we can have a virtual "bro-date" and share our mutual experiences regarding these types of situations we've each either witnessed or experienced?