If someone has a gut reaction due to trauma, I try to be sympathetic to whatever they're dealing with that I personally can't understand. But a line has to be drawn, at some point. One can only swim in their experience of oppression for so long until they essentially become an oppressor (behaviorally speaking), themselves. This certainly doesn't diminish or cancel out all of the harmful effects and malignant stratification caused by patriarchy...and I have no doubt that you and Elle and myself all would agree on that starting-point (along with several conclusions/solutions that could be extrapolated from it).

I have plenty of trauma in my life...but I don't go around lashing out at everyone who cosmetically resembles (or has attributes in common with) those who've terrorized me at so many points during my life. And why don't I do that? -- because it would be HATEFUL of me!

And thank you for informing us of how busy you happen to be, this afternoon...I'm sure everyone who reads this would've been dying to know where you'd disappeared to...