Marnita, what you highlight is the exact reason why we need to begin narrowly-defining and delineating SYSTEMIC RACISM from CULTURAL RACISM and SOCIAL RACISM in our everyday speech.

It seems as though whenever a White person shares their experiences with racism, the hecklers resort to minimizing it as "hurt feelings"...

https://medium.com/counterarts/the-hurt-feelings-fallacy-a41dded1a947

The problem with this approach is that those so-called "hurt feelings" don't manifest the same way in every individual. This is especially true when someone has been through trauma and/or is neurodiverse. What seems like a minor inconvenience to one person could have severe physiological impacts on another person.

But I definitely agree with you that the White people who deny the existence of systemic racism (and what makes it **SYSTEMIC** for BIPOC communities) are making everything worse!