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Sex Appeal — Part of An Expanded Review of Justin Baldoni’s ‘Man Enough’
Justin Baldoni tells some honest truths about how men agonize over our sexual abilities (or fear that we lack them)
The so-called conventional wisdom about men and boys is that we crave sex — and are hungry for it, and become grateful anytime we can get it. Now, male persons certainly do love sex and sexual imagery. I should know. But it isn’t the same for every guy. Not in quantity. Not in frequency. Not in longevity. And certainly not in terms of what type of sexual expression turns us on, as individuals.
In Chapter 7 of his book Man Enough, Justin Baldoni shares his personal history of sexual insecurity. He gets candid about his past addictions to pornography. And he relates it to data that indicates how millions of men struggle with similar bouts of shame. Most of them just lack a healthy outlet for expressing it. We’re afraid to confide in other male friends. And that makes us ashamed to be honest about our fears over sexual dysfunction with the women, the other men, or the nonbinary people who are our lovers or spouses.
This is Part 7 of an eleven-part series examining Baldoni’s book.
