This is classic projection. You act like I'm trying to shame you for being who you are authentically in terms of your love life and your sexual satisfaction (which I'm not) -- yet, if I desire the same respect from you and everybody else in regard to my own identity, I'm suddenly "transphobic."

Why can't we, as a community, just love one another platonically and spiritually -- and then, when it comes to romance, just say "To each her/his/their own" and leave it at that? Wouldn't THAT be the apex of sexual freedom and bodily sovereignty?