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Why Being Horny Isn’t a Character Flaw
Sexual creatures aren’t inherently shameful
When looking at our society’s most common gender-based stereotypes about human attitudes toward sex, the assumptions have been pretty well-established. Men and boys are viewed as hormonal “pigs” who can’t control ourselves. Women and girls are viewed as either promiscuous “sluts” who don’t “know their place,” or prudish crones (if not virginal lambs) who are disinterested in libido altogether.
These stereotypes are, of course, largely off-the-mark. But try telling that to folks who are peddling a specific agenda.
My plea to humanity is a radical departure from accepting these caricatures. Rather, we need to begin viewing ourselves as being rich tapestries of sexual liberty. Our own erotic tastes, desires, and stimuli can be composed of many different flavors or textures.
I hope, when we consider what defines someone as “horny,” we’ll begin to transcend age-old allegories. Can we view people as sexually multidimensional — beyond the cheap lines that comedy writers jot down for awards show presenters to utter?
Just because a female person is horny, it doesn’t automatically make her a “slut” — she can still be authentic and genial while enjoying sexual liberation.
